For a long time I labeled my excuses as fears as well. But now I know that most of your fears are mere excuses or myths. If you do not push yourself to face your fears you will spend most of your life hurting.

I am listing some of these excuses here from my book “From Approaching To Sex In Under 30 Minutes“.

Read these and make a commitment to get rid of your excuses, take action and approach those beautiful women. Make a promise right now to approach two women today after reading this post.

Here are some excuses or internal conflicts that prevent us from making the move:

I am not good looking.

Women are far more attracted to personality than looks. In fact, being a man who is conventionally good looking presents its own set of challenges. Many women feel as though they are players and do not trust them from the outset.

Most guys are not good looking and most women are far more attracted to personality than looks. In fact good looks in men has its own set of challenges. These men come across as players and women don’t trust them. 

 If you display qualities that attract women nothing else matters.

Seal married Heidi Klum – need I say more? Most of the time it is other factors that get you the woman.

Everyone will laugh at me when I get rejected.

Only if you act rejected! No one knows you got rejected unless you leave the set crushed. When a set ends or you get rejected, take it like a man. Smile, shake hands and say it was nice talking with you. Leave with a smile on your face. Women usually are very polite when they reject you.  If they do, BIG FUCKIN’ DEAL!  Everyone, including me, gets rejected.

She probably has a boyfriend.

She probably does – she probably does not! It means nothing. She might be dating him to land the role she has been dying to get or because she has not met anyone like you. She does not want to come across as a loser by being single. I could publish an entire book with stories of women leaving their boyfriends or husbands for someone else.

That guy is probably her boyfriend.

The only way you’re going to find out is if you approach her. Even if he is her boyfriend he’s not likely to kill you. Eight out of ten times the guy will turn out to be her friend because women do not like to go out alone. They feel more secure with having a guy along for the ride; it prevents losers from approaching her. In fact, approaching a woman who is with a guy raises your value. You are seen as a confident, ballsy guy to be able to do that. On numerous occasions I have seen women make out with other guys and provide a phone number in spite of their boyfriend’s presence. Expand your belief system and experience the magic.

Recently I was with a student and I sent him to open a set on the dance floor. The woman was with three guys. I watched from a distance as he opened the set and then became surrounded by the three guys. I approached and found that he wasn’t in trouble as I thought. The men were from France and had traveled to the U.S.; the woman just happened to be with them. In a short time everyone were chummy as old friends – and the man told my friend that the girl was single, to make a move.

Now, I must admit that if I had realized early on that she was with three guys I probably would have not sent this student to open her. I should note that this was his first time in the field but failing to send him would have done him a huge disservice. Valuable lesson learned! Open and don’t worry about dynamics. Let it play out! You’ll be surprised.

She will think poorly of me if I approach her. I will lose value for approaching her.

Au contraire. She will have more respect for you for approaching her as opposed to not approaching her. After all, they go out themselves to meet men.

I was once recording live pick-ups in a bar and a group of women approached me. I talked with them about this very fact. They agreed that they would rather have guys approach them rather than not approach them.  Imagine how crushed they will be if no one approaches them!  You are only respecting women by approaching them, a fact a woman will only confess to a confident man.

She spotted me making out with another girl.

Congratulations! You now have very high value in her eyes! Women love a man that other women want. Why do you think rock stars get laid all the time? In fact, you lose value if you don’t flirt with other women.

One of my ex-girlfriends confessed that she would always let her boyfriend flirt with other women because it increased his confidence and her jealousy level, that the combination resulted in great sex. Needless to say, she didn’t have to apologize to me for being sexual!

I don’t have much to say.

This won’t be true after reading this book and doing the exercises I ask you to do! You will have plenty of material to use. If not, you will learn to create it while in action.

She is a wallflower.

What if the girl is sitting all by herself in the corner? Good news—seduction will be easy. You don’t have to look for an isolated corner to make out with her and this will also ensure less distraction. Chances are that she is shy if she is sitting in a corner by herself.  In this case you will need to do more talking at first. It also means she has not been approached much that night. She will thank you for helping her have fun because she could have been bored the entire night.

 The point cannot be made strongly enough: Women are dying for you to approach them! They want the same thing you do!  Be a Man and seduce her. She will thank you for that! 

I am not in the mood.

Excellent—go and talk to her. This should get you out of your gloomy mood. For Christ’s sake, stop making the damn excuses!

I’ll start tomorrow.

Good—just have some ear plugs ready because the sounds of your roommate fucking her will hurt.

While going to school in New Jersey I lived in a townhouse and roomed with four guys and four girls. There was an attraction between one of the girls and me. One night there was a party for the Seniors and she asked if I wanted to go. “I’m not in the mood,” was my response. My roommate ended up making a move on her while at the party. I cannot tell you how pissed I was listening to them fuck all night long.

Make the excuse today and tomorrow you will say again “I’ll start tomorrow!” It’s a cycle that will never end.

I can only give you advice. I cannot make you go and do what you are supposed to do.

Need motivation? Go back to page 30 and read the bullet points. The sooner you start your journey, the sooner you will reach your destination. Everything else can wait! 

RULE:

From now on, anytime you have an excuse as to why you should not approach the woman you MUST approach her to prove to yourself that you were making an excuse.

Read “From Approaching To Sex in under 30 Minutes” and discover techniques to train your mind to stop fearing beautiful women and start dating them. Try risk free for 30 days and see the results.

When you meet her make sure you don’t end up hitting on her. The ideal thing would be to ask her opinion on some girl you are interested in or her opinion on some relationship topic etc. Women love giving advice on relationships.

Ask questions to get to know her as well. Ask about her interests, life and boyfriend as well.

This way she will not be bored just talking about you. By asking about her boyfriend you will also make it obvious that you are not trying to get with her. It will also help you bond with her and establish comfort. Now you are on your way to have a beautiful woman friend in your life.

Try to have as much fun as you can so things don’t get boring. You want her to hang out with you again but she will not do this unless she has fun with you.

From this point on you keep calling her once in a while. Make small personal talks when you meet her at school or at work. Few days down the road make plans again to hangout or watch a movie. You could also ask her to wing you and give feedback.

Imagine how good it will feel when you go to a bar or club with her. Think of the value you will get when you walk into a bar or a club with a hot woman.

Do not be afraid to meet her boyfriend if she asks to. Remember you have nothing to be afraid of because you are not trying to get with her.

Start becoming friends and spending time with beautiful women and soon you will feel comfortable around beautiful women. Then when you see a beautiful woman you will have no hesitation approaching her.

Find out ways you can meet and date beautiful women on regular basis. Read “From Approaching To sex In Under 30 Minutes” to build confidence and discover techniques which will get you beautiful women.

This way when you meet a beautiful woman you are attracted to, it will be no big deal to approach her because you are used to talking to good looking women.

Lot of men get nervous when they see beautiful women. This is because they have not spent enough time around good looking women. They don’t know how good looking women feel and behave. The only image they have of good looking women is what they get from media and what they hear from other people. Unfortunately most of these stories are biased. They present good looking women in a bad light. This incorrect portrayal of hot women makes men anxious and gives them approach anxiety.

A simple solution to overcome this is to become friends with good looking women, spend time with them and get to know them. This way you will know exactly how beautiful women feel and behave. Gradually you will build comfort around them.

Next time you see a woman you find attractive go and become friends with her. Simply walk up to her and say, “You seem interesting! I would love to be friends with you and get to know you. Don’t get any ideas I am only looking for a new friend.”

If you find a girl in your classroom or work that you think is cute go and approach her. Make a small talk with her. If the girl is in the same class as you, ask her for a study session.

If she works with you, ask her to join you for lunch. Say something on the lines. “Hey what time are you taking the lunch break? I could use some company.” Or just say “hey let’s have lunch together.”

It is only polite to ask your colleagues for lunch so she will not say no. You could also approach the girl and say: “Hey I need some advice from you. Join me for lunch or join me for coffee.”

You could also make plans for an evening. This way you will get to spend more time with her and become friends. Say, “Hey I need some advice from you. What are you doing tomorrow evening? ” She might get curious and ask you what it is about. Don’t tell her.

Respond by saying, “Can’t tell you now. Are you free?” or “I will tell you. I just don’t want to talk about it here.” Almost every woman will say yes to this. If she already has plans she will let you know in which case you guys can pick an alternate day.

Try “From Approaching To Sex In Under 30 Days” at no risk. This book will change your dating life forever. You will learn techniques to build confidence around good looking women and date them using simple strategies taught in the book.

Real Social Dynamics

Real Social Dynamics

RSD (RSD Nation)

Real Social Dynamics is an interesting company. Real Social Dynamics has been in controversy from the beginning of dawn. Real Social Dynamics was criticized in the book “The Game” by Neil Strauss. Real Social Dynamics is often compared to a cult because of their teaching methodology. Real Social Dynamics is probably the most criticized company in the pickup scene.

I have to be perfectly honest guys that I have never read a single post or book from Real Social Dynamics. As a matter of fact I have not read or heard any product from any company in the community. I have never visited the website for Real Social Dynamics or watched any of their videos either.

I have trained couple students in the past that had previous training from Real Social Dynamics. In fact one of them claims to be the co founder of Real Social Dynamics. This student claims that he invented the 12 student boot camp design while working for Real Social Dynamics. I have no way to verify this. I have to admit that these students from Real Social Dynamics had weird personality and very messed up way of approaching and seducing women. But then I did not know how they were before they got any training from Real Social Dynamics.

It is very possible that these guys were way messed up even before they took training from Real Social Dynamics. It is possible that the messed up version I was seeing in these students was their better version from taking Real Social Dynamics boot camp. But it is also possible that these guys were normal guys before they took Real Social Dynamics Workshops and were screwed up after the training.

One of my coaches in training took a Real Social Dynamics workshop in the past and asked for refund even before the three days were over. This guy has real high standards. He has taken refunds from majority of companies. There are very few coaches he is impressed by. He not liking Real Social Dynamics is understandable because he is just a perfectionist.

The truth is I cannot pass any judgment until I have more facts on Real Social Dynamics. However based on the limited experience with couple of their students I do believe that Real Social Dynamics instructors failed to correct some major personality flaws these students had. But as I mentioned this is a statement against Real Social Dynamics with little or no evidence to back it up. This is just my opinion.

On the flip side I have lot of respect for Tyler Durden from Real Social Dynamics. Sometime back I heard that he was taking a break from Real Social Dynamics and learning from Anthony Robbins. This is huge in my book. An instructor who is not only teaching but also focused on continuous self improvement is worth my respect. Kudos to that!

When it comes to live training Real Social Dynamics like other companies teach 12 student boot camps. I have already mentioned that I am not a big fan of teaching a large group. I believe that in order for your students to succeed you have to devote lot of individual time and attention to them during training. You have to calibrate the session to who your students are and where they stand with their dating life. This is almost impossible to do in a big group setting that Real Social Dynamics use. This is also the reason why 3 out of 4 students I trained last year ended up sleeping with women within a week of training if not during the session itself.

You can find out more about our training program here: Pick Up Artist Training

Love Systems

Love Systems  

Love Systems is one of the hardest to comment on. Look guys I have worked for Love Systems in the past so obviously I have my biases. I used to work in office managing Love systems’ website. Granted I never coached for Love Systems but I still have close association with them. I have lot of respect for Savoy who runs Love Systems because he offered me a job when I was moving to LA so I could support myself. He took me to Play Boy mansion on his dime and was very supportive when I started my company. 

Obviously working for Love Systems I made friends within the company. So there is no way I can analyze any one at Love Systems. I love the company and am their well wisher for life. 

I have to admit though that Love Systems in my opinion is the most professional and corporate like entity in the dating field. This is a very good thing because they bring consistency in what they do. You will always get Love Systems news letters on time and you will always have professional venues when you take a workshop with Love Systems. Love systems continuously update their website and are much focused to get media attention. 

When it comes to methodology, Love Systems is again focused on consistency. They have their Love systems model and they teach it to all of their students. This is awesome because then you know what you are going to get from taking a Love Systems workshop. 

This is also where I differ from Love systems. I have no model. In my sessions I observe students the first night and then draw a plan based on my evaluation. I believe that all students are different. They all stand at a different level. They have unique challenges and need unique solutions to advance their game with women. I make my students interact with women and see how they come across to women. Then I tweak a few things to see if women react differently. Then based on my evaluation I design drills and exercises for the remaining workshop. I believe it is a waste of time to teach how to approach women if students are already good at it. I prefer to devote more time to the areas that students are struggling with. This is how students get faster results. 

However this is a challenge when you have multiple students. This is where Love Systems professionalism and corporate structure help them teach boot camps of 12 students. This gives students the opportunity to train with a large group of peers some of them end up becoming friends. We on the contrary cannot give individual attention to 12 students so we keep our class size small to 4 students and 2 instructors. 

I guess at the end we both have our plus and minuses. Love Systems are more professional and organized to teach 12 student workshops. Students get to enjoy the experience with a large group of peers. We on the contrary can’t provide the experience of a large group but the advantage is more individual attention, a personally customized workshop and more time with instructors. 

I guess this is the best I can summarize Love Systems vs. us.

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Yes looks matter but not as much as you would think. If you look like a male super model for sure approaching women will be real easy. However your looks do not guarantee that you will be able to seduce the woman and get a relationship out of your interaction.

Men usually judge women by their looks. We pay attention to physical features like breasts, proportion, skin tone, hair, eyes, lips, height etc. So it is only natural for us to think that women judge us on the same scale.

However women are more attracted to personality, fashion, grooming and attitude. Women prefer men who are strong and confident. They value humor in a man. They are seduced by a man who is in control and not afraid to take risks. Women find a man who is neat, well groomed and bit trendy to be attractive. Women enjoy the company of men who make them experience different emotions.

At the end of the day it all boils down to how a woman feels around you? Does she feel feminine and sexual around you? Do you take charge and make the move or are you a shy man who can’t even make an eye contact.

Compared to men women have less social freedom to date around. For biological reasons and social pressures women can’t sleep around with hundreds of men or date for 50 years before they settle down.

This is why it is very important for women to make sure they end up with the right guy who will be able to take care of all their emotional and physical needs.

Yes looks matter but personality, charm, confidence and skill set are way more potent and effective than looks alone. With the right tools you can cast a first impression so strong that women will want to meet you and talk to you. Imagine how easy it will be to seduce a woman if she is already curious and wanting to get to know you.

Sign up for our 3 day live training program. In this program not only will you get the right looks that will attract women but you will master the skill set to approach and seduce women anywhere – anytime. This coaching program comes with a 100% money back guarantee so either you succeed with women or get your money back! Find out more about this program by visiting our page on Pick Up Artist Workshop.

Truth be told most men will be way more successful if they spent some time strategizing where to meet women and how to meet them.

You have to meet the right woman to be in a satisfactory relationship. Most men suffer endlessly in bad relationships because they do not spend time to figure out what kind of women they want to date. They do not make any effort contemplating: What is it that they want in a woman and where to find that kind of a woman.

Most men take the convenient path of going to bars and clubs. They fail to recognize that they are competing against a large number of men to win a woman at a bar. They would easily seduce these women under different circumstances but because these women are tired of getting hit on all evening they have their defense shields up. This makes it harder to seduce women at bars and clubs compared to other venues.

I am not saying relationships don’t happen in bars and clubs. In fact we pick up women at bars and clubs all the time but as I mentioned you have to make much less effort when you approach women outside of bars. We chose bars and clubs for training because there is a constant flow of women and you get to practice on more women in a shorter amount of time.

Ask yourself these questions:

1. What kind of relationship are you looking for? Are you looking for a serious and a committed relationship or are you at a phase where you simply want to date multiple women.
2. What Qualities, physical, intellectual and/or spiritual, are you looking for in a woman? Are you looking for a skinny or curvy, artist or professional, sensual or strong? Make a list of those qualities.
3. Where will you meet this kind of a woman? If you are looking for a musician you have better chances of finding them in environments where musicians go. Find the venues where musicians usually crowd at night. Think the kind of jobs they will take to support themselves. Then go there to meet these women.
4. How can you position yourself in those environments so you have an advantage over these women?  Once you have narrowed down to the kind of women you want to meet and know the places you want then think the kind of men who will be in that environment. How can you position yourself to come across as more attractive and desirable?

The game of dating is real easy and lot of fun. You can discover strategies that will change your life forever. With few simple exercises and practical tips you can master the skill set to position yourself effectively. You can learn the rules of the game to meet and date beautiful women on a consistent basis.

Read “From Approaching To Sex In Under 30 Minutes”. This book will give you the skills of Casanova to meet women and pull them home for sex the same night.

Most men want to know how to kiss a woman. You need to ensure that the girl wants to get romantic with you before you initiate that first kiss.

1. Gently stroke the hair of this woman and see how she responds.

2. Hold one of her hand or both of them and gently squeeze them.

3. Slowly brush her arm looking into her eyes.

Measure her responses to your moves. If she responds positively to two of those then you know she is ready to be kissed by you. Don’t worry if she does not squeeze your hand back or doesn’t brush your arm. She is ready to be kissed as long as she does not ask you to stop or walk away from you.

Once you have tested that she is ok to be kissed.

1. Step slowly towards her or pull her close.

2. Look in her eyes.

3. Lean forward.

4. Kiss her on the lips.

It is a good idea to start with a peck on her lips and follow it up with a longer kiss if she does not object.

There is no need to pull back after you kiss her the first time. You could stay in the kiss position, take another look in her eyes and go for the long kiss.

It is possible that the woman may pull back when you go for the kiss even if she complied with all you tests. Don’t assume she does not like you or don’t want you to kiss her because she pulled back.

It just means that she did not see the kiss coming. She was a little surprised when you went for the kiss. It could be bad timing or maybe you did not relay your intentions strong enough before you went for the kiss.

If you do the above three tests it will reduce the chances of a girl not knowing your intentions.

If the woman does not want you to kiss her again she will tell you or walk away from you. If she does neither of those and continues to stay and participate you can conclude that she wants to be kissed by you and wasn’t ready the first time.

Test her comfort again by running the above three tests one more time.

If she does not object to any of your touches you can go in for the kiss again and it will happen this time.

Few additional tips:

 Make sure to use some breath fresheners or mint before you kiss the girl.

. Don’t start professing your love to the girl right after you kiss her. It is too early in the game.

. It is always a good idea to shave before the kiss else you will scratch her face.

. Don’t try to kiss her in front of her friends when you kiss her the first time.

. Don’t get upset if she rejects you. Don’t try to convince her or argue with her.

. You can make things a bit more romantic by holding her hands or hold her on the hips when kissing. You could also whisper something in her ears between breaks from kissing. Try playing with her hair. Most girls love it. Whisper and go back for another kiss. Make it a long one this time.

. Try not to wait for the end of the night or for the goodbye moment to initiate the first kiss. It is too cliche`d.

. Don’t get all awkward after you kiss hey. Don’t go all sexual either unless you are absolutely sure that she would be ok with it. You do not want to make things awkward or ruin the moment by coming across as uncomfortable or desperate.

Read “From Approaching To Sex In Under 30 Minutes” E-Book to master the skill set needed to approach and seduce beautiful women on regular basis.

Pick Up Artist Mystery from Mystery Method

Mystery Method

Mystery (VH1’s The Pickup Artist) On Negs

I recently recorded a video which generated lot of controversy. In this video I suggested steering away from Negs as taught by Mystery Method. Here it is:

People have taken this video way out of the context. I have been getting emails on a regular basis asking if I hate Mystery Method or if I am against Mystery. For those of you who don’t know about Mystery, he is the founder of Mystery Method and lead on Vh1’s “The Pick Up Artist Show”. Mystery runs the website Venusian Arts.

I am not against Mystery. I like the guy. He is cool. I am not friends or partners with Mystery or Mystery Method but I am not against them either. In fact I have lot of respect for Mystery and his methods. I have heard the struggle Mystery went through when he started the Mystery Method bootcamps. I have heard stories about Mystery teaching workshops for $50 and crashing on other people’s couches to keep Mystery Method workshops going. I respect and admire that about Mystery. Truth be told it is because of Mystery that Pick Up community has become so large. And I will be a complete jackass to not acknowledge it.

I am also not suggesting that Mystery Method does not work. Mystery and Mystery Method have a very different approach to meeting women. I personally do not prefer Mystery Method style of meeting women. I do not like Mystery Method because it is too slow for me. It takes hours and days before you reveal your intention to women using Mystery Method. In my opinion Mystery’s method hurts your self esteem and inhibits your chances of building confidence.

I personally like to make men comfortable with the idea of getting sexual with women. I teach to get sexual with women right after approaching them but in a manner that is appreciated by women. Yes this is in contrast to the Mystery Method.  

Unlike Mystery Method I believe that women are flattered when they hear that a man desires them sexually. Unlike Mystery Method I also believe that women like a man who does not take no for an answer. And unlike Mystery Method I also believe that men get much better and faster results by getting sexual early on. This is the reason 3 out of 4 guys I taught last year ended up sleeping with women within one week of training if not during the training itself. Read their reviews here.

Look guys I want to clarify this once and for all: I am not against Mystery or Mystery Method. I just share my belief system and techniques which sometimes are in contrast to Mystery Method. If someone takes an offence out of that and gets upset well too bad.

I also believe that there is no one way of meeting women. I switch from direct to indirect depending on the woman and venue all the time. I mean it is only natural that sometimes you reveal your intentions right away and other time you hold them for a bit.

During my training I take the direct approach so students can build sexual comfort around women. I want students to discover that nothing happens when a woman finds out early on that a man is trying to get into her pants. If anything it makes him come across as a man who is not ashamed to get sexual. This only turns women on. This realization alone takes my students to the next level and they get laid in no time. Yes this is different and faster than Mystery Method but I am not going to apologize for it. And this in no way implies I hate Mystery Method.

I will agree I made a video where I mentioned that I do not appreciate the usage of negs  as taught by Mystery Method because it hurts students more than it helps. (P.S. for all you controversy junkie: just because I do not agree with one concept, it does not mean I hate Mystery Method). 

Soon after the video I got hundreds of emails saying I did not interpret Mystery Method’s description of negs right. And that negs as taught by Mystery Method are not about hurting a woman’s self esteem. Well here is a video where Mystery himself is talking about Negs. Scroll to 1.01 and hear Mystery say “Not only do I briefly lower her self esteem…”.

Look guys let’s get mature and face it. I have a different belief system and method that Mystery Method. There is nothing wrong with that. Mystery and Mystery Method can preach their system and I can do mine.

Whether I hate Mystery or love him or whether Mystery gets offended by my comments or love them should be a matter to be decided between Mystery and I. I am positive that Mystery is beyond pettiness and does not care. He is here to help men and so am I. He is doing it his way and I am doing it my way. I think we both can respect each other for that. So stop creating this feud because there is no tension between Mystery and I. And I will be more than happy to sit and have beer with Mystery.

Hope this clears my stance on what I think of Mystery and Mystery Method. Hope we all can mature and accept rationally that people think and operate differently. Just because I have different belief system and style from Mystery and Mystery method I do not hate them. I do not criticize Mystery Method. I just share information and my mindset which is at times different or in contrast to Mystery method. Let us focus on discussing concepts so everyone can benefit from it as opposed to creating rivalry which gets attention but no real benefit.

With this post I have cleared my stance on Mystery Method once and for all. You can find more information on my training method by visiting my Pick Up Artist Bootcamp page.